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Enough with the constant need to be happy

"Life is constantly moving past us while we are try to chase a singular moment of happiness"

April 18, 2017February 13, 2019depression, fulfillment, happy, inspiration, joy, mental health, presence, sadness, therapist, therapy, wellness1 Comment

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I’m getting closer to going on maternity leave. I changed the date about 98 times because I still struggle with rest. I love having the privilege of sitting with people everyday who are working through their struggles (so much so that it’s a nice distraction from dealing with my own😬). . So here is to heading into a season of rest, and focus on self.. no matter how scary it sounds ❤️💆‍♀️ . Photo cred to 👑 @cosmiclovephotography

I can’t speak for all therapists but I imagine we all have pretty similar lists. . Fellow clinicians! What do you have to add??

When I compare myself to other full time clinicians, I get insecure about where I am in my career. When I compare myself to other moms, I often feel like I am failing as a mom. When I stop to think about what my definition of success is... I am right where I need to be. . We are influenced by so many definitions of success. What our homes should look like. What our bodies should look like. Careers. Cars. Families. You name it, there is standard to live up to. . Once you can start to filter out all of these messages, and better yet... define your OWN definition. It feels like freedom.❤️ . Remind yourself often, these messages creep back in at unexpected times. . What’s your definition of success?

We all love vacation because it is such an intentional time to rest. It’s removed from the daily routine. I’m working on being intentional with my rest and I really hate it. I really like to be busy. Growing twins means I have to really rest, often. I know I have a season of maternity leave in my future and I am really wanting to be intentional about how I spend that time too. So here is what I am trying to do to save my sanity: -trying to put my phone down and read a book - putting my phone away when I am trying to actually nap . . Clearly my phone is my biggest thief of quality rest. What are some of your tricks for rest?

Ever been to a doctor and they tell you that the symptoms you experiencing aren’t real? Or at least they can’t explain it? . This experience alone is completely infuriating but is the perfect example of our disconnect between our minds and our bodies . Stress and powerful emotions trigger a series of physical reactions in your body. Hormones are released, muscles contract, your breath changes. Doesn’t make sense that these physical changes caused by our emotions can have a physical impact? Especially after an extended period of time? . This is where holistic health steps into the picture. Make sure your doctor asks about your emotional well being. Make sure your therapist asks about your physical symptoms. . There is never “not an answer “ to a physical symptom. The answer may not be simple or obvious, but there is an answer. . What are some other physical symptoms you have experienced that were linked to emotional stress?

I read about this concept in the book “What to do when you are having Two” by @natsrealworld of @twiniversity and man it hit me hard. I host. I LOVE hosting but when someone comes to visit a newborn, it’s absolutely NOT okay to host. . Why? Well, the mom and dad need help and most importantly, visitors WANT to help. BUT...You have to let them. . When I work with clients who struggle to ask for help. I always flip the script. You like the feeling of helping someone out? Well, every time you don’t ask for help... you rob that person of that experience. . This problem with coming to help new parents, is you have no idea what’s useful! Your helpers need guidance. . So if you catch yourself going into “host” mode, let’s start a thread of easy requests you can ask if your visitors that can help you out! . Mamas you have this concept down, what did you get visitors to do to help out? Share your advice below! I will start!! Ready set comment!!

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