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We spend a lot of time creating a birth plan but if you are uncomfortable or out of practice at setting boundaries the practicalities of seeing it through can be really challenging. . Here’s a list of phrases that may be an easy start to help you enforce that birth plan you worked so hard on. . Medical interventions are life saving and sometimes really needed but what leads to traumatic birth experiences isn’t the medical interventions ... it’s when moms feel a loss of control, forced, coerced, fear mongered into a decision. . Informed consent, communication and boundaries can be the difference between a beautiful and empowering birth or a traumatic one (regardless of if it’s “on the birth plan”) . A key element to birth trauma is feeling not in control of your own body. In the wider scope of maternal mental health, boundaries and phrases like these matter on the big day. . What other phrases could you add to the list?

Do you let yourself REST? Like guilt free, rest? Resting is something I still struggle with. Even when I am at home or “off” there is always a list of things I should be doing instead of just resting. . Ultimately this leads to burn out, personally, professionally. No one is safe here. . Here is a simple challenge for the week around rest. Be intentional about your rest. Set a time to rest. Saturday until 11:00. Or whatever! You are not allowed to do anything productive in this time. No dishes, no laundry, no email. Save this for when the clock strikes 11:00. . Hopefully your intentionality helped in dealing with your “I should be “. Knowing when it’s time to be productive is soooo important!

Gratitude is a beautiful practice, but here’s the deal y’all. I keep using it as an excuse to not express my true emotions. And I see you doing it too. . I have 4 baby feet kicking me in a bruised rib, get heartburn when I look at a cookie, and can no longer take deep breaths. But if you ask me how I am feeling .. “Great! Thanks” because any other answer is being ungrateful. . You can love your partner and be grateful for them and still be hurt by what they said. . You can be grateful for your children and still struggle with motherhood. . These feelings can both exist and always will. Utilize gratitude but watch out for when you start to push down the less pretty feelings. . Sure some may argue that gratitude will shift your entire mindset. I say it can HELP shift your mindset, but unexpressed emotion needs to find a way out. . So you do you. Like really, honestly and authentically

Here’s the deal. Postpartum life is tough on women’s bodies and we need to be able to call bull shit on unrealistic standards of debuting a “post baby body”. Women are too busy recovering from a major surgery, trying to feed their babies, heal from delivery, and let their organs resettle into the correct places too worry about what they look like. . 👍 . Don’t misinterpret this for don’t do what FEELS good on your body postpartum. Working out should be done with a listening mentality and not a pushing mentality. Does this feel good? . Check your expectations and goals for your body postpartum. Is it one of your own, or something diet culture has influenced?

Kindness heals. It’s been a long week, so here is your weekend challenge to spread some love this weekend.

Back to our regularly scheduled programming on boundaries and growing your family. Today I bring you pregnancy. . The list today took me about 5 seconds to come up with because I have experienced all of these in the last month, easily. . Something about that belly makes strangers in the grocery store feel entitled to personal information.. and entitled to touch you.. and entitled to give you their opinions. . It can really eat you up being the “cute pregnant lady” who’s belly is no longer her own, but subject to the worlds opinions. . Let’s me clear, I don’t think the constant boundary crossing is malicious. I really think people just love babies and get excited and want to be apart of your journey. . But that’s hard to remember when you have a barista suggesting decaf coffee to you. 💆‍♀️😳😡 . With some humor, and a arsenal of one liners, you can help keep these opinions at arms reach. . LADIES, let’s fill these comments with you best come backs to over intrusive behavior during pregnancy! (I will start.. because I have 2 amazing ones 😂)

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